By Dr. Janet McPeek
President of Crossroads for Youth
As a parent, you want your child’s online experiences to be safe, educational and entertaining.
But today’s cyber-technology environment can be challenging, especially when it comes to the social networking sites.
The first thing parents should do is gather information when their child uses a new form of online social activity.
This puts adults in a much better position to protect their child.
First, know the basics. A social networking site is a place on the Internet where a user creates a profile and builds a personal network connecting him or her to other users.
The profiles often include the posting and sharing of photographs. Users decide whether to have an ‘open? or ‘restricted? page.
An open page allows anyone to contact them, while a restricted page requires permission from the user before contact can be established.
The most popular sites among adolescents and young adults are MySpace, Facebook, MyYearbook, Friendster, Tagged, Hi5 and Xanga.
Over the past several years, MySpace and Facebook have rocketed from a niche activity to a phenomenon that engages tens of millions of Internet users.
Fifty-five percent of American youths ages 12 to 17 use online social networking sites, according to a national survey of teenagers conducted by the Pew Internet & American Life Project.
The survey also found that older teens ? particularly girls ? are more likely to use these sites than boys.
Girls primarily use social networking sites to reinforce existing friendships, while boys use the sites to flirt and make new friends.
Most parents are concerned about privacy and photograph sharing on social networking sites.
Depending upon the site, there may be little or no restrictions on the content of posted photographs.
Consequently, there are user profiles containing inappropriate photos of young people ? sometimes engaged in illegal activities ? along with names and addresses of the users.
When children post personal information on social networking sites, they may unwittingly expose themselves to online sexual predators.
Additionally, many employers and colleges scan these sites to gather information about applicants and make decisions on whether to hire or admit them.
Here’s how you can help your child use the Internet safely:
* Do not rely on the sites to protect your family. Unfortunately, popular social networking sites have not employed the necessary safeguards for children.
* Act sooner, rather than later. Look at your child’s social networking sites on a regular basis and never feel that you have to apologize for being a concerned, responsible parent.
* Find out what your child wants to get out of their site and discuss some of the harmful things that can happen if he or she is not careful.
More importantly, don’t approach this subject as something you have to ‘put up with.? It’s not all bad. Sometimes new things can have a positive, unintended impact.
For example, some shy kids are better at communicating via social networking sites than they are face-to-face. Think about it.
Today’s kids are basically doing the same things we did when we were their age. It’s just that the communication methods have changed.